Actor Stephen Fry is opening up about his relationship with husband Elliot Spencer, who is 30 years his junior, and why the pair haven’t been photographed together in six years.
“My husband and I, we don’t go to Hollywood parties much,” Fry, 67, said during a Friday, March 21, appearance on The Jonathan Ross Show, first reported by the Daily Mail. “We have an early supper, watch Jeopardy!, go to bed…”
Fry first met Spencer, 36, in 2014 at a mutual friend’s party. At the time, per the Daily Mail, he was initially known as “Mr. E” before the pair went public with their relationship. The two said “I do” in January 2015, less than two weeks after they announced their engagement.
“Gosh. @ElliotGSpencer and I go into a room as two people, sign a book and leave as one,” the actor wrote in a since-deleted post via X at the time. “Amazing.”
Fry, who was 57 when he proposed to the then-27-year-old writer, shared in another since-deleted post via X that he had “hoped for a private wedding.”
“Oh. It looks as though a certain cat is out of a certain bag,” he wrote at the time of his engagement. “I’m very very happy of course but had hoped for a private wedding. Fat chance!”
On Friday, Fry opened up about the moment he met his husband.
“We met at a friend’s house and I knew pretty much straight away that this was someone I wanted to spend, what I considered, the rest of my life with,” Fry said at the time.
Before quitting Instagram, Fry celebrated the pair’s 10th wedding anniversary with a touching — and rare — post.
“Ten happy years to the day since we were joined in marriage,” Fry wrote at the time, alongside a black-and-white photo of the pair on their wedding day. “I’m a lucky man.”
Last year, while speaking to Evgeny Lebedev on his “Brave New World” podcast, Fry admitted that he doesn’t want to live past 100 because he would “hate to be that lonely,” adding that it would be “deeply unsettling” to live in a world without his friends and beloved family members.
“Personally, I’m not particularly interested in longevity for myself,” he explained at the time. “I’m interested, as I think most people are, in the idea of an old age that is as pain-free as possible and where there isn’t too much cognitive loss.”
He added, “If everybody — my family and friends — lived into their 120s, then maybe I’d be quite happy to pass 100. But as it is, I would have to be that lonely Flying Dutchman figure so beloved of history … The survivor, all of whose dependents and acquaintances have since died. I would find that deeply unsettling.”
